The main issue with my childhood church a physical church that left me emotionally scarred was this. The preacher evolved into a deity. All he said was accepted, all he approved of was accepted, and all he detested was destroyed.
On the surface, it appears that disputes should never arise within the church, particularly between the leaders. The problem is that no one will ever think for themselves if there is never any disagreement.
Any Bible other than the King James Version was considered "not a Bible" in my family church. It wasn't "real truth." However, a thorough examination of the King James Version's intentions will reveal certain political undertones.
One day, my spouse brought up the issue that a church is deemed to be "dying" if its average membership is forty years of age or older. The younger generation isn't in the pews in sufficient numbers to take the places left by the elder generations.
The church was never intended to be a country club for affluent Christians. Its purpose was to inspire believers to reach out to the community and extend a warm welcome to them as members of the Body.
While I'm not advocating that you attend church in a bikini, there need to be no dress requirement at church that is based on judgment. One may never be certain of someone's financial situation or the reason behind their behavior.
According to my former church, modern Christian music is "disrespectful" and "unChristian." But the older I grew and the more Christian music I listened to, the more I realized that the teachings and lyrics of these songs were as bit as God-honoring as those of the hymns.